My job continues to challenge me. I have the option of working a compressed shift. 8.30 to 7.15 - four days a week. I would be off Sat, Sunday and Monday. Every week. But they will be LONG days. I am not sure.
My heart is heavy. I am feeling the burden of raising a 15 year old son. He used to be so bright and full of light but is now caught up in this vortex of nihilistic crap and lacks any type of motivation. He has not found his passion and he is not particularly interested in looking for one. He is a flat lining. I don't know how to resurrect life back into his soul. Can I even do such a thing? It pains me like an arrow right through my heart.
I take delight in my friends and in their words that this too shall pass.
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Hugs to you. My oldest tends to be that way - he's sat on the floor on the computer for about a year since he gradated from high school.
Therefore, I don't feel any ability to offer you words of wisdom, just a hug and love.
being filled with "nihilistic crap"
used to be the hallmark of well situated university level students who rebelled against the structured society of their parents.Others, who had to go out and work to support their young families didn't have time for that self indulgent (crap) stage in life. For the former,it was one step along the long road to maturity to give them a perceived aura of intellectualism.Some stayed at this stage, but many others sorted out their own values along the way.
Sadly,in today's fast paced, dysfunctional society, this malaise is affecting younger and younger people. At a time when he looks away from his parents to his peers for orientation,your son is surrounded by the superficial values of these peers, mixed with their fear of growing up to face the world. Insecurities and indecision are being hidden behind a facade of apathy which they think makes them appear as grown-ups (because that's what they see in so many floating adults).
In your son's case,though,I trust that you and your family, along with the members of your parish, have planted the seed, long ago, that will eventually enable him to look critically at himself and at what is going on in the world "out there". I sincerely hope that he will then turn away from those influences and become a person with whom you can cmmunicate freely again. Your intense prayer, patience and encouragement are powerful tools to help him along the way of leaving his childhood
and becoming a responsible adult.
For you and your family: Hugs and prayers. A continued trust in GOD will make you strong and help you weather this storm
In my experience (been through 3 fifteens) 15 is a rough time. But your boy has you and you seem to have a positive outlook - he'll come through it. (And, if you need a list of sources for black tee shirts shoot me an email.)Or, if you think it's deeper than a phase, I'd encourage a good teen therapist - it can make all the difference.
sigh. that's hard.
worried that if you do the compressed days that your committment to family dinners may be challenged; can be tiring...
will pray for wisdom.
family stuff is hard and it is not mentioned how much boys can suffer around that age; my brother suffered lots in his teen years.
love to you. hugs and prayers to the Mother of God for help.
prayers.
I remember being 15. It sucked.
We continue to keep you and yours in our prayers.
No advice..I have that 13 yr old son at home. Just know we are all traveling through this journey together.
theresia's comment means so much to me.
I have 5 children, 21 thru 12, and while they are "good" kids/young adults, there world and how they process it is as different for them as it was for us and our parents.
You will know doubt get to the other side of it, as will he, but sometimes speed dial on this stuff would be awesome.
my kids don't think money grows on trees, but they don't feel the pressure to do like we did . They don't seem to be in a hurry to do anything.
It may be that they are wiser in some ways.
theresia's comment means so much to me.
I have 5 children, 21 thru 12, and while they are "good" kids/young adults, there world and how they process it is as different for them as it was for us and our parents.
You will know doubt get to the other side of it, as will he, but sometimes speed dial on this stuff would be awesome.
my kids don't think money grows on trees, but they don't feel the pressure to do like we did . They don't seem to be in a hurry to do anything.
It may be that they are wiser in some ways.
theresia's comment means so much to me.
I have 5 children, 21 thru 12, and while they are "good" kids/young adults, there world and how they process it is as different for them as it was for us and our parents.
You will know doubt get to the other side of it, as will he, but sometimes speed dial on this stuff would be awesome.
my kids don't think money grows on trees, but they don't feel the pressure to do like we did . They don't seem to be in a hurry to do anything.
It may be that they are wiser in some ways.
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